Yes, And ~ week 46

As I’ve mentioned here before, one of the richest memories of my life is how I used to get up at 5:30 in the morning with my dad. It was our time. We’d eat GrapeNuts and tell each other about the miracle(s) we’d seen the day before. I still try to like GrapeNuts and I still try to look for miracles every day.

Finding the miracles has been harder for me lately. I might notice (my word for 2015) lovely people, places, or things, but I’ve allowed circumstances, over which I feel powerless, to cloud my ability to recognize them as miracles. That’s gotta change.

Here’s how I’m going to change it. Yes/And. I completely accept the reality that YES there are many things going on the world, over which I have no control. AND while I continue to attend to what I can, I’m going to focus on the light, the good, the possible, along with the people doing the light, good, and possible.

YES, the divisions, gloom, fear, and darkness will still be around. My focus, however, will not be as glued to it, as it has been lately. I’m going to focus on the power of miracles. When I find myself tempted to dwell in the negative longer than is necessary, I’m going to seek out AND people, places, and things. AND people, places and things are the miracles Daddy and I used to share with each other daily. I’ll share some of them with you, here.

Gravestones can be pretty powerful markers of a life.  On Mom’s, I had the written:

Edna Jackson Bearnes

July 18, 1925 – September 17, 2017

…beloved wife, mother, Nana, and force of nature.

I think she’d like that. 

img_6704-1.jpgThis week, I got a postcard from the Department of Veterans Affairs, letting me know her headstone had been installed.  If you’re not familiar with how National Cemeteries work, the message about the U.S. service person’s is on the front of the headstone and the spouse/beloved’s, on the the back.  I haven’t yet seen the new stone, but will soon.

Yes, seeing that headstone for the first time will be tender AND 10/20/17 would have been my sister’s 71st birthday.  Coincidence?  I think not.

Has anything like that happened to you lately?

3 thoughts on “Yes, And ~ week 46

  1. I think the personal comments on these stones are precious. I love your mom’s, I wish I had known her though it sounds like the apple did not fall far from the tree. Paul’s stone read: “Paul Salbert, October 2, 1956- October 1, 2016, family doctor, rejoice in hope.” His favorite verse was Romans 12:12 rejoice in hope, be patient in trouble and pray at all times. I was really proud of our sons for their input on the gravestone, patients who knew and loved Paul will recognize him in those few words.

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