My word for this year is LEARN.
So it just makes sense to use this Year of Sundays to reflect on 52 of my most significant Life Lessons. Some may seem more significant than others, but each one has changed how I live my life in powerful way. I’d love to hear if and how any of these same lessons have surfaced in the classroom of Your Life.
A dear friend lost her brother, Jim, to cancer nine days ago. The cancer that took Jim was the same kind that took my sister, Mari, 562 days ago. Jim was my friend’s only remaining sibling – just like Mari was mine.
So when my friend asked me to ‘MC’ Jim’s Memorial Service, I had to say, “yes”, but I didn’t want to. I wanted to take the pain I knew my friend was feeling and go hide in my bed. I wanted to cry. I did cry. And I said, “yes.”
I’ve counselled a lot of people through their own grief, but grief never felt real until I lost my sister. That doesn’t mean I didn’t feel it when my dad or when other people I love have died. It just felt more real when I lost my sister.
So yesterday I had the honor of honoring Jim. I wish I’d known him. I do know him. Jim was fiercely independent and gentle. He loved life, people, football, baseball, laughing, loving, breaking rules, streaking, great music, his family, kids, fishing and – as the Buddhists say, “chopping wood and carrying water.” He was the real deal. He IS the real deal.
And I love imagining Jim and Mari smiling at each other – with their magnificent smiles- as they find their own funky ways of letting us know hat We Can Do This.
I’d love hear about the people this post nudges you to honor…