He asked what I was doing. I said I was getting ready to lead a retreat. And he said, “Why are you going to help people give up?”
That’s what ‘retreat’ means to him.
I guess it kinda means that to me, too – just in a different way.
That’s how words work. The same word can leave two people feeling very differently.
Take ‘accept’, for example. To some is means receiving and openness. To others it means not getting what they want – conceding.
Some people think ‘confidence’ always involves being better than someone else. Others see it as an internal/individual trait.
“Help” is a word that some have no trouble using at all – sometimes they may over-use it. For others, it’s the most underused word in their vocabulary.
So as I prepare ‘to help people give up’, I’m more aware that words don’t just have definitions. They also have emotional meanings, which are tougher to anticipate, translate and sometimes understand. Not too sure what I’ll do with this enhanced awareness except remember (again) that what’s heard really IS more important than what’s said.
What do you think?