As I type this post, the guys are here to cut my grass. So there’s a lawnmower, weed eater and leaf blower all going at the same time.
My wonderdogs are barking at them.
And NOW my inner critic is telling me that maybe this isn’t a good time to write a blog post.
Sometimes it’s tough for me to chose what to listen to amongst all this stuff I’m hearing.
We all know that hearing and listening are two very different experiences. To me, hearing is almost an inactive verb. Life is noisy. Sounds happen. As long our ears are in working order, we hear them.
Listening, on the other hand, is a very active verb. It’s the conscious choice to filter, store and be affected by the noise.
I marvel in the presence of Uber Listeners. I want to be more like them.
Here’s what I’ve noticed Uber Listeners have in common:
1. They choose to listen. Whether they’re tuning in to a person, some great music, singing birds, the wind and even silence – their entire focus is toward what or whom they listening.
2. Their responder seems to be turned off as they listen. So they are really listening rather that preparing their witty or wise reply.
3. They don’t just listen with their ears. They let me know they’re listening with their whole selves. They’re looking at me (rather than their IPhone or someone nearby who looks like they might be more interesting, etc). They’re facing me with their body without invading my space. While their mouth might move to smile, frown, laugh, etc with me – it is otherwise closed.
4. They create a cone of listening. Remember the cone of silence from Get Smart days? Well, Uber Listeners have a gift for creating a space that supports storytelling and storylistening.
5. They seem to be adept at listening to their inner coach more often than their inner critic (and yes, we all have both). This one is tough to describe. It’s just something ya know when you see.
6. Extraneous noises don’t seem to bug them. They seem to be able to ignore ringing phones, buzzing cellphones, barking dogs and even screaming schedules.
If you are an Uber Listener or know some, please let us know what else you’ve seen in their listening.